For the longest time I had a problem trying to fit into the role of a father. I was irresponsible and selfish. After I made a decision to let my Heavenly Father be the Lord of my life, I decided to be a father who isn't just there. I have three kids and I know how they turn out largely depends on how I raise them.
Now comes the problem.... my wife is always telling me that I tend to use a harsh tone when interacting with the kids. I never took her seriously because I'm the disciplinarian in my family. I discipline and they run to her for love. I told her that was my discipline voice, and then she went on to say I speak to them in that tone most of the time. To make it even worse my kids agreed that I appear "grumpy" most of the time. Don't get me wrong I love my kids, I show them love, I hug them (maybe not as much as I should).
I just thought it was out of Love. Because I want my kids to turn out right, I follow what the Bible states-
Proverbs 13:24
Whoever spares the rod hates their children,
but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.
I want to show my children love without sacrificing discipline. What do I do? How do I do it?
Pray to your Father for wisdom. Be mindful of "how" you say things, but you shouldn't neglect your responsibility as father and head of the household. Eph 5:21-33 - "... submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
ReplyDeleteFor the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,
so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,because we are members of his body. "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband."
Mr Walt ,Thank you for always imparting that wisdom God has given you.May he continually bless you
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