For the longest time I had a problem trying to fit into the role of a father. I was irresponsible and selfish. After I made a decision to let my Heavenly Father be the Lord of my life, I decided to be a father who isn't just there. I have three kids and I know how they turn out largely depends on how I raise them.
Now comes the problem.... my wife is always telling me that I tend to use a harsh tone when interacting with the kids. I never took her seriously because I'm the disciplinarian in my family. I discipline and they run to her for love. I told her that was my discipline voice, and then she went on to say I speak to them in that tone most of the time. To make it even worse my kids agreed that I appear "grumpy" most of the time. Don't get me wrong I love my kids, I show them love, I hug them (maybe not as much as I should).
I just thought it was out of Love. Because I want my kids to turn out right, I follow what the Bible states-
Proverbs 13:24
Whoever spares the rod hates their children,
but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.
I want to show my children love without sacrificing discipline. What do I do? How do I do it?